Here is my emailed response to my struggling friend that asked this question: How do you balance God’s goodness and your life?
While Bentley was still in the NICU, I remember a specific time when I was in the store and I questioned God’s goodness to me. Upon check out I noticed that People Magazine’s cover story was Christina Aguilera and her healthy baby boy. I was angry as I looked at her face with her newborn. I questioned how God could give her a healthy baby and not me. I was the christian!
Thankfully, my thoughts didn’t last too long as I reminded myself, that I was the christian and I have hope. My greatest need has been taken care of and I will be in Heaven one day, where every tear will be wiped away and all the pain I was feeling would cease. God is good. No matter the situation, I have hope!
I realize now that as I write these words, I should have praised God that Christina Aguilera had a healthy baby. I could have thanked God that she was spared from grief and for the precious miracle that her son is. I could have prayed for her salvation…. because I am a christian!
Fast forwarding a little bit. I’ll never forget the day that the results came back showing that Bentley’s kidneys were polycystic. I was giving a sewing lesson after I had gotten the news. The mother of my student was encouraging me and reminded me that none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. That statement of truth has helped me so much. I have come to realize that I only have grace for today. I need to cherish today and see God’s goodness in today. I know that this can sound like a lot of fluff, but I have come to realize that leaning and trusting God is the only way that I can get through my troubles.
As I remember who I was and who I am now, I see God’s goodness. It has only been through my circumstances, God’s strength and the Holy Spirit that have changed me. That is how I can look at my children’s disease and see God’s goodness. I THANK God for it because without these difficulties I wouldn’t be who I am today. I wouldn’t know God and love God the way I do without these trials.
My greatest need has been taken care of on the cross and through the resurrection of Christ. I stand on the promise of the day that is drawing near, when the good work that was started in me will be brought to completion and all pain and sorrow will cease. When I will see God and be rewarded for my obedience and hardship <<crazy>>>. I will be with the One I love!
The promise of Heaven is how I balance God’s goodness and my life.
I love you, friend. Keep fighting the good fight with endurance. Do not give up hope because we have a glorious hope. He will give you the strength that you don’t have to walk through this extremely tough trial.
For the moment all discipline (trials) seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11
The effect of righteousness will be peace and the result of righteousness quietness and trust forever. Isaiah 32:17
Keep sharing your heart, letting people pray for you and stand on His promises! God loves you most! Don’t doubt His goodness!
xo, nikki :)